Comments on: Another Ladoo for my Ladla http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/ Basab Pradhan's weblog about business and life in a 'flat world'. 6 AM Pacific is the best time for a global conference call. Sat, 11 Oct 2008 11:22:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: Expressing love through food, the Indian way « Obesity In the News http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-8895 Expressing love through food, the Indian way « Obesity In the News Thu, 22 Nov 2007 16:35:58 +0000 http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-8895 [...] Expressing love through food, the Indian way I came across this interesting post by Basab Pradhan on the feeding, particularly of sons, by mothers in India. It is quite common and especially if you are an Indian living abroad, you will see this unleashed on you in its full puissance on your annual (or for some, more frequent) trips to India. He also mentions how he is noticing obesity around him on this trip, something about which I wrote before and after my last trip to India. [...] […] Expressing love through food, the Indian way I came across this interesting post by Basab Pradhan on the feeding, particularly of sons, by mothers in India. It is quite common and especially if you are an Indian living abroad, you will see this unleashed on you in its full puissance on your annual (or for some, more frequent) trips to India. He also mentions how he is noticing obesity around him on this trip, something about which I wrote before and after my last trip to India. […]

]]> By: Shefaly http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5928 Shefaly Thu, 12 Apr 2007 08:39:30 +0000 http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5928 Buss, buss, Ma ne pet ke liye diya hai! Sorry, couldn't resist. Buss, buss, Ma ne pet ke liye diya hai!

Sorry, couldn’t resist.

]]> By: Gaurav http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5923 Gaurav Wed, 11 Apr 2007 19:11:28 +0000 http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5923 Basab, Awesome post! I laughed myself to tears, especially remember all the khana that Mom made for me when I visited my parents for one day last week! For that one day I was in Delhi, Mom made enough food to feed an army. "Beta, jab tum aate ho, to khana banane mein mazaa aata hai!" (son, I love making food for you when you come home!), and the Ram-baan of "Tumhare liye banaya hai, thoda to lo beta" (I've made this for you, you have to have a little of this). Bas Ma, aur nahi! Hazmola hai kya? ;-) Basab,

Awesome post! I laughed myself to tears, especially remember all the khana that Mom made for me when I visited my parents for one day last week! For that one day I was in Delhi, Mom made enough food to feed an army. “Beta, jab tum aate ho, to khana banane mein mazaa aata hai!” (son, I love making food for you when you come home!), and the Ram-baan of “Tumhare liye banaya hai, thoda to lo beta” (I’ve made this for you, you have to have a little of this).

Bas Ma, aur nahi! Hazmola hai kya?

;-)

]]> By: GG http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5728 GG Mon, 26 Mar 2007 00:35:04 +0000 http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5728 It starts when they have babies. Only desi moms will claim "My son never eats anything." You see them chasing their kids in parties trying to feed them :-) Enjoyable piece. gg It starts when they have babies. Only desi moms will claim “My son never eats anything.” You see them chasing their kids in parties trying to feed them :-)
Enjoyable piece.
gg

]]> By: harman http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5726 harman Sun, 25 Mar 2007 21:41:55 +0000 http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5726 I gain almost 5 kgs when I go home for a week - imagine 5 kgs My digestion gets all upsaet. But its not beacause of force feeding - I just cant stop myself from Gulping those paranthas. Maaa main aa raha hoon maa........ I gain almost 5 kgs when I go home for a week - imagine 5 kgs
My digestion gets all upsaet. But its not beacause of force feeding - I just cant stop myself from Gulping those paranthas.

Maaa main aa raha hoon maa……..

]]> By: Vi http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5725 Vi Sun, 25 Mar 2007 19:54:45 +0000 http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5725 Aaah! I understand this all too well. Since starting college (and living away from home) my mother feels it necessary that I eat as much as I can when I come home so it fortifies me..I've actually gained weight since leaving home. And when I say no, she gets all hurt and upset.... Indian mothers, I tell you! Aaah! I understand this all too well. Since starting college (and living away from home) my mother feels it necessary that I eat as much as I can when I come home so it fortifies me..I’ve actually gained weight since leaving home. And when I say no, she gets all hurt and upset….

Indian mothers, I tell you!

]]> By: DesiPundit » Archives » Of Indian moms, their sons and force feeding habits.. http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5723 DesiPundit » Archives » Of Indian moms, their sons and force feeding habits.. Sun, 25 Mar 2007 16:20:41 +0000 http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5723 [...] Basab says Indian mothers are indeed unparralleled in the sport of offspring feeding.. She gives herself high points for feeding her “ladla” snacks fried in saturated fat, mithai and lots and lots of carbs. Resistance is futile. If there is ever any research done in this area, my money says that men living in joint families are more likely to be overweight. My advice to you is to have a gameplan for when you go visit your mother. As for me, I gave up long ago. Meal after meal, I loosen my belt and clean my plate. I workout twice as much the week after..but for the few days I am with her I can’t break her heart. [...] […] Basab says Indian mothers are indeed unparralleled in the sport of offspring feeding.. She gives herself high points for feeding her “ladla” snacks fried in saturated fat, mithai and lots and lots of carbs. Resistance is futile. If there is ever any research done in this area, my money says that men living in joint families are more likely to be overweight. My advice to you is to have a gameplan for when you go visit your mother. As for me, I gave up long ago. Meal after meal, I loosen my belt and clean my plate. I workout twice as much the week after..but for the few days I am with her I can’t break her heart. […]

]]> By: Vidya http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5702 Vidya Wed, 21 Mar 2007 20:08:08 +0000 http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5702 Basab, You are in so much trouble ! Next time it's just flowers on our anniversary I know who's going to get a certain link! Another coping strategy may be to flat out lie and say 'doctor ne mana kiya hai' , This will stop the feeding but may result in a barrage of worried queries...on second thoughts, forget it. Jokes apart, it might be a good idea to set expectations before you sit down for the meal. You might want to prepare her for the tremendous insult you are offering to her nurturing instincts. Set the bar really low and she will be pleasantly surprised when you eat that third roti( all because you couldn't resist her excellent cooking.) Basab,

You are in so much trouble ! Next time it’s just flowers on our anniversary I know who’s going to get a certain link!

Another coping strategy may be to flat out lie and say ‘doctor ne mana kiya hai’ , This will stop the feeding but may result in a barrage of worried queries…on second thoughts, forget it.

Jokes apart, it might be a good idea to set expectations before you sit down for the meal. You might want to prepare her for the tremendous insult you are offering to her nurturing instincts. Set the bar really low and she will be pleasantly surprised when you eat that third roti( all because you couldn’t resist her excellent cooking.)

]]> By: Sunita Mohanty http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5699 Sunita Mohanty Wed, 21 Mar 2007 09:29:53 +0000 http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5699 Its just boils down to being "mothered" all the time....and hence Indians are not a confident and independent lot...be it food or a career decision...Parents have to have a say!!!! Its just boils down to being “mothered” all the time….and hence Indians are not a confident and independent lot…be it food or a career decision…Parents have to have a say!!!!

]]> By: Shefaly http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5698 Shefaly Wed, 21 Mar 2007 06:55:26 +0000 http://6ampacific.com/2007/03/18/another-ladoo-for-my-ladla/#comment-5698 Venkat and Shreyasi: Please allow me to combine your comments to say something. Two leaders of NASSCOM have died in recent years in their early 40s. I do not think that bodes well for the industry they represented, an industry marred by extreme habits of work and consumption. I worked in this industry for my post-MBA years and there is a very good reason that I now work in healthcare. There is also a constant refrain of continuous tiredness coming from my friends in India. It is ok when the workers are exceedingly young (in their 20s). But without any investment today, we are going to have rather unwell 40-year olds at our hand in 2 decades' time. "Young Indians are waking up to the fact that they need to look good, feel good and be fit with a regular exercise routine." I think the priority should be exactly in the reverse order. Much needs to be explored to detangle exactly how our mental states affect our eating and exercise patterns, but that there is a link, about this there is no doubt. Dealing with affectionate - or otherwise motivated - force-feeding in India requires habits and behaviours which are frowned upon in our culture such as straightforward refusal, rejection, cognitive discourse about the reasons (only if asked), challenging 'elders' and so on. But with some effort, we can not only share some of our awareness with our families, but also explain what we do for our day jobs. Venkat and Shreyasi: Please allow me to combine your comments to say something.

Two leaders of NASSCOM have died in recent years in their early 40s. I do not think that bodes well for the industry they represented, an industry marred by extreme habits of work and consumption. I worked in this industry for my post-MBA years and there is a very good reason that I now work in healthcare.

There is also a constant refrain of continuous tiredness coming from my friends in India. It is ok when the workers are exceedingly young (in their 20s). But without any investment today, we are going to have rather unwell 40-year olds at our hand in 2 decades’ time.

“Young Indians are waking up to the fact that they need to look good, feel good and be fit with a regular exercise routine.”

I think the priority should be exactly in the reverse order. Much needs to be explored to detangle exactly how our mental states affect our eating and exercise patterns, but that there is a link, about this there is no doubt.

Dealing with affectionate - or otherwise motivated - force-feeding in India requires habits and behaviours which are frowned upon in our culture such as straightforward refusal, rejection, cognitive discourse about the reasons (only if asked), challenging ‘elders’ and so on. But with some effort, we can not only share some of our awareness with our families, but also explain what we do for our day jobs.

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